When attempting to create a loving, healthy intimate relationship, it is important to have an accurate roadmap for the journey.
Most of our culture’s roadmaps have emphasized fantasy, illusion and denial, and those who follow those maps will tend to have unhappy, conflict-ridden relationships.
Not everyone goes through all the stages and some couples may go through them in a different sequence, but for most couples this is the normative experience in a long-term committed relationship. ROMANTIC LOVE This is the love that Hollywood loves to promote as the only kind of love. There is a tremendous emphasis on maximizing similarities and minimizing differences.
There is a belief and expectation that you will provide most or all of my wants, needs, desires.
There is generally a high degree of passion and feelings and expressions of romance come easily and often.
The partners think about each other constantly, and make much eye contact and are very affectionate when they are together.
Many people experience this as living in a state of near-constant bliss and infatuation.